My fiance is having my engagement ring made from a family heirloom. It is an antique opal ring with diamonds. I am flattered he would want to give me something so sentimental and can’t wait to wear it! It’s taking awhile for the jeweler to make the ring, and I hate not having a ring to wear. I feel like no one takes this engagement seriously b/c I have no ring (i.e. my parents), and even I don’t feel right not having a ring as we’re making wedding plans. Is it wrong for me to ask for a promise ring in the meantime? A very small diamond promise ring, something around 0 or so. Nothing extravagant. We had discussed a promise ring months ago, but I told him no, and now I’m regretting it. It’s not about how big the stone is or how much he spends, to me it’s just having a ring as a symbol. I would be thrilled with a 1/5 carat diamond that he can buy here in town for just under 0. I’m very proud that we’re engaged and I want to show the world that I’m engaged now.
I’m definitely not a gold digger! I’m looking at a 1/5 carat for cryin’ out loud! I think it’s just the anxiety and excitement and all the emotions going on, and I just can’t wait to look at my ring finger and see a ring. To me, a ring is a symbol of committment. Doesn’t matter what the stone is or how much it’s worth. He knows I can’t wait to wear a ring and he’s just as excited about getting to wear a wedding band. It’s not that I don’t appreciate what he’s doing for me, b/c I do, and I feel incredibly honored he would do something so special for me, that I’ll have a one-of-a-kind ring that no one else in this world will have. Like I said, we’ve talked about this before, and even he isn’t totally thrilled w/me walking around without a ring.
Thank you to those who understand this is really just me being way too excited about being engaged! If we could, we would get married at the JOP tomorrow, but I’ve always wanted a wedding, and he wants to make sure I have that. I’m not a very patient person, as you can tell. But my parents even agree on a small diamond, like 1/5 carat or something. Just something as a physical symbol. I’m not basing or measuring our love by a piece of jewelry, and he knows that.
Oh, respondant #10 you brought up a good point and reminded me of something! Just the other night my fiance and I were talking about how soft and delicate opals are and how I really won’t be able to wear it all the time b/c it could get damaged so easily. I told him I would like to have another ring to wear when we’re on the river or at the beach or something. He seemed to think that was a good idea.